I had to come up with a cute graphic in keeping with Regan Lee's because I have a guest post at her Mating Hedgehogs Blog (I love that blog title!). It has nothing to do with ufos or the paranormal, rather it is about the type of prejudice women who choose not to have children face from other women. Yeah, men sometimes too, but mostly other women.I should say here, since I forgot to put it in the article and some will probably wonder, I do not hate children. Anyone who knows me knows that I adore my little niece and nephew. I just never wanted my own when there seems to already be plenty of them in the world and I am perfectly happy as is.
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I recently read your response on R Lee's blog, and it is so right on! And I never took it in any way, that you hated children. When I was MUCH younger, around 17 to 19 years old, I ran a toy dept in the old Newberry's store in Downtown, Portland, Oregon. At the time, my YOUNGER sisters were foolish enough (in my opinion) to have babies around this time as well. And as much as I enjoyed helping to care for their children, I just did NOT want children.. ever. I felt I didn't have the patience or tolerance for them. Especially after seeing how children behaved in the toy dept. where parents sent them off to while the parents ran off shopping without them - practically forcing me to watch over them.
But times changed when I married, and oops! I had a daughter from a previous marriage..(went through a divorce during my pregnancy with her-ugh!) Then 15 years later I finally decide to re-marry (yea, it took me for ever to get over my first bad marraige) and we had twin boys.
I'm fine with my life and how things turn out...BUT if I could turn back the hands of time it might all be different. Who Knows. But then again, I'd probably think the same thing of turning back the hands of time if I didn't have children. LOL
It is always easy to second guess choices you make. A few years ago I wondered if I had made a mistake, but then my then 1 year old niece came to stay with us for a week and I was once again sure that I made the right choice for me.
Twins? I can't even imagine that. Hats off to you, that is some hard work!
I learned very early that I never wanted to have kids. I went through some amazing soul searching at 16 when my 15 year old girlfriend skipped some periods and fortunately realized my path before mistakes were made. Lucky me.
I've never had pressure or felt prejudice because of that decision, though I can understand the unfortunate social stigma that women must face in our sick society.
Lesley Lesley Lesley...
Life is short and children can make a fine job of it.
I have a teenage daughter. That seems so distant from having children.
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